Lilith in the 3rd House

Before exploring the attributes of Lilith in the 3rd house, we should mention that the article is about Black Moon Lilith. Thus, we should distinguish this mathematical point of alignment from the asteroid Lilith, and also from Dark Moon Lilith, which is calculated in a different way.

Lilith is not a planet and is not a material object. It is the hypothetical point connected to the apogee of the Moon’s orbit, the farthest spot from Earth that the Moon can reach. The Moon is not orbiting Earth in a circle but in an ellipse, and thus this calculation shows the astrological degree in the signs when the Moon transit is more distant from our planet.

Black Moon Lilith is a rather obscure point of an individual’s natal chart. This topographical extreme point of the Moon makes emotion and sentiments hit a low and show their cold side, and the placement of this mathematical spot signifies quite a lot of doubtful or even negative behaviors. Under one’s Lilith can hide subconscious energies of malice and self-undoing, yet it would be wrong to consider her as something mostly negative.

Having Lilith in the 3rd house is considered a good placement, as most astrologers claim she feels exalted in the sign Gemini. Thus, in the 3rd house, she is in domicile, and mostly manifests as an unquenchable thirst for communication and information. Of course, as it is Lilith we are speaking about, the means of receiving that information might be highly dubious. A third house Lilith person will not hesitate to overhear a conversation, gossip, or use other obscure means of gaining knowledge about things that interest him. If your natal Lilith has difficult aspects with Mars or Mercury, be very careful of what rumors you spread. Also, if your natal Lilith squares a planet in the 12th house, your tongue will definitely create some hidden enemies; generally try to think a lot before revealing sensitive information of others.

As the 3rd house rules ones’ siblings, this natal placement can indicate a person that is using his siblings to empower his own purposes. Lilith may indicate lies towards them, and when she is ill-aspected these can even have a lot of effects on the relationships with brothers and sisters. In any case, a person with such a natal Lilith will definitely wear a mask towards the siblings, having a hidden agenda. This, nevertheless, does not indicate that there will not be love between them. The emotions can be totally real and even harmonious. A well-aspected Lilith will mostly lead to the ability to manipulate, without this being frequently implemented in reality.

Black Moon Lilith’s presence in the 3rd house of an individual can have an influence on his style of writing. He may be drawn towards writing dark poems and literature, involve deep sexuality in his scripts or else how to express very deep and archetypical layers of his soul. Lilith can even trigger “sick” imagination, which will be considered quite radical and taboo by other people. This natal aspect can aid a lot anyone who is interested in alternative literature, as his works are definitely not for the masses.

The 3rd house is ruling one’s early education, and the presence of the Black Moon shows some problems in school. Those are mostly dependent on the communication with other pupils, and Lilith can bring all type of negative feelings. An early heartbreak from your first crush, wrath, and jealousy towards the strongest pupil, mistreating and being mistreated, power games inside the classroom. Of course, most children are getting involved in such types of stories. Nevertheless, those who have Lilith in the 3rd house tend to experience them as utterly important for their reality.

Another characteristic that Lilith in the 3rd house can give, is making the individual a state-of-the-arts liar. Any person with such a placement can perfectly masquerade his lies under his words, diverting the other people’s attention and generally be a master of deceit. Her presence in the 3rd house can also have an effect on the native’s voice, making it seductive or even creepy. In any case, the people around him perceive his voice as weird and dark, and the native may have tendencies to whisper.

Black Moon Lilith in the 3rd house can lead to sexual adventures with neighbors or people who generally live in the neighborhood; in extreme situations can bring attraction towards a cousin. In any case, the native may be making short trips for sexual reasons, have sexual partners in nearby cities and maybe even pass secretly a lot of weekends with a hidden lover.

In case you have Lilith in the third house, try to think before speaking as your tongue might have a lot of poison. Your ability to hurt others with your words is very strong, so choose consciously and wisely before you do it. It is always better to express your darkness through art, than directly and uncontrolled towards other people.

Each planets have a different effect on you, depending on which house and sign they reside in. In order to find out where they are located in your natal chart, you can use our free birth chart generator. Also, examine the aspects that they form with other planets in your chart. You will understand a lot more about the detailed role that they have in your horoscope.

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Wanda J. Harding

I have Black Moon Lilith in the 3rd house. I am the oldest of 5 children…. I had the responsibility to help my mother with my siblings when young…. Now, it was not necessarily an extreme situation, but, I did have more responsibility than many of my peers. I also have Saturn rising, conjunct my Ascendant….and conjunct mercury. So, with this interpretation of Black Moon Lilith, I see that yes, my relationship to my siblings did play a very large role in my life. One of the images I have of myself is that of the somewhat lonely girl, sitting at her window in a large house, in an upper room, at her desk, writing. She is an observer of the world, of life. She is somewhat reclusive, but she dreams of many adventures and this is what she writes about. I myself have not had the, luxury of sitting by my window to write, not as much as I would like. I have not been able to have ENOUGH reclusiveness… so that I CAN collect my thoughts enough to write them. I try. Over the years, I have been writing, here and there, but ALWAYS pulled away by life’s obligations, to make a living, get out in the world and yes, have adventures. Lately, it seems, over the past few years, I have some trouble with my siblings… especially my youngest sister. Also, I constantly worry about my communications, did I say that right?… am I being misunderstood?…. it seems to have been happening more … or maybe I am more aware that I have been misunderstood for a long time. People do not understand me. My study of Astrology and over the lasts, 12 years or so, my study of climate and the destructive nature of our species… Read more »


I didn’t even know about the black moon or her story. Yes I see a lot of the characteristics in me. My aunt once told me, “You picked up what your siblings left behind.” And took some what they didn’t want to leave….. See.


Yes, my Lilith conjunct Saturn with Jupiter and Mars in 3rd (Virgo), I seek to have secret relationships with women who tend to be older (when I was in my 20s and 30s), established, independent, well-spoken, open-minded (I’m a center Left, Libertarian on moral issues and a Democrat voter) and my thing I have with pregnant women…not a requirement, but that’s something I long kept to myself. And this perfectly describes problems with my family like my brother, half-sister (Dad’s first daughter), parents, stepfamily (Dad’s wife and grown step-daughters), neighborhood, community, state and nation when it comes to conflict, getting along, culture and political issues. +