Lilith in the 4th House

Before exploring the attributes of Lilith in the 4th house, we should mention that the article is about Black Moon Lilith. Thus, we should distinguish this mathematical point of alignment from the asteroid Lilith, and also from Dark Moon Lilith, which is calculated in a different way.

Lilith is not a planet and is not a material object. It is the hypothetical point connected to the apogee of the Moon’s orbit, the farthest spot from Earth that the Moon can reach. The Moon is not orbiting Earth in a circle but in an ellipse, and thus this calculation shows the astrological degree in the signs when the Moon transit is more distant from our planet.

Black Moon Lilith is a rather obscure point of an individual’s natal chart. This topographical extreme point of the Moon makes emotion and sentiments hit a low and show their cold side, and the placement of this mathematical spot signifies quite a lot of doubtful or even negative behaviors. Under one’s Lilith can hide subconscious energies of malice and self-undoing, yet it would be wrong to consider her as something mostly negative.

Having Lilith in the 4th house is considered a rather unfortunate natal placement, as it directly affects one’s childhood years and family. Astrologers claim that Lilith’s detriment is the sign Cancer, and thus the traditional home of Cancer is by no means a good place for her to dwell.

The native’s early years are disharmonic and there are problems with at least one parent. The fourth house is responsible for the less dominant one, which in most cases is the person’s mother. Lilith in the 4th house can give an unloving mother that abandons her child or does not dedicate a lot of time to it. There are a lot of possibilities that she is dedicating more time to her sexuality than raising the young native, and Lilith’s sexuality is a rather obscure matter.

In many occasions, Black Moon Lilith in the 4th house can bring divorce of the parents due to unfaithfulness or other reasons connected with sexuality. The child feels as an observer, incapable either to understand or to soften things between its parents. In many occasions, the native himself is an offspring of lust rather than love, and even if his parents decide to live together and try to create a family the odds are against them. Step-parents can also be involved in the child’s early years, and it largely depends on other factors and aspects to determine their nature.

As a result, Lilith in the 4th house may cause similar problems when the native wants to create a family for himself. Her presence in the house of home is far from creating a sanctuary, and there will be even similar characteristics in the situations between the native and his spouse as his parents had.

The 4th house Lilith individual tends to dedicate his time and effort in matters of the exact opposite house, the 10th. He may develop great career abilities and uses his work as a gateway to escape from being at home. In extreme cases with very difficult aspects, Lilith will create a person who uses his residence just for sleeping and prefers to pass the biggest amount of his time elsewhere.

The 4th house is the house of one’s roots, and Lilith placed there can bring a lot of secrecy about the native’s ancestors. There can be dark powers running in the blood of some female ancestors. In addition, the native may have experienced a lot of poisonous relations with family members. He feels a scapegoat and rejected, and the natural outcome of his life is alienation from his roots. In case that Lilith is adversely aspected by Mars, Saturn or Pluto, the young individual might have experienced a lot of physical punishment. In lighter cases or with good aspects, verbal abuse is more frequent.

Of course, such difficult surroundings may also bring positive outcomes. Being trained in how to survive in difficult situations, the native becomes a strong character and can excel in his career- especially the type of authority positions that involve control.

The possible negative ancestral karma can run quite deep, and sometimes a wise decision for such a native is to not form a family in order to break the cycle that repeats the same patterns. Of course, this does not apply to people who have strong benefic planets in the houses of marriage, children, and family.

If you have this placement, you might unravel that you possess deep instincts of emotionally harming people. As we already mentioned, the fourth house is traditionally ruled by Cancer and the Moon, and Lilith will frequently lure you to hurt the Moon power of other people. If you notice such types of behaviors try to deactivate them, as they are subconscious programs copied from your parents’ behaviors. You have a great chance to end these cycles – and taming Lilith can unify your light and dark side into a balanced whole.

Each planets have a different effect on you, depending on which house and sign they reside in. In order to find out where they are located in your natal chart, you can use our free birth chart generator. Also, examine the aspects that they form with other planets in your chart. You will understand a lot more about the detailed role that they have in your horoscope.

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Great write-up. I know because this explains my childhood. I did end up a child of divorce due to unfaithfulness. And my lilith is in pisces trine pluto. Verbal abuse was more common than physical. Although, I have to say my parents did and do still love each other. I’ve always seen in myself a dark side. For some reason a part of me enjoys the idea of being physically cruel when I feel hurt. But I’ve never let it manifest; im well aware that this is dangerous for me karmically and immediately. Im thankful that I have a lot of positive aspects in my chart which keep me positive and kind. I also have had a feeling that I will never have a family which makes me sad.

thank you for writing this.


I am amazed to read this BML aspect. This explains so much about my life and the great mystery of why i saw a repeat of my unfortunate childhood repeat itself with my wife and daughter. I have never come across this aspect. Coincidently (lol) i was awakened by a disturbing dream in the early hours of the morning of the day that i chanced upon lilith. I wanted to bring something to my family but i didnt know where they are. I titled the dream “where is my family?” I lost it all over thirty years ago and i stopped the blaming a long time ago. Thanks so much for this fot it is a real eye opener to me. I used to lie awake at night listening to my parents shouting at each other. Your article has also allowed me to see the reality of my Mothers sexual misbehaviour and my father rarely being at home. He always had jobs that entailed being absent where he could do what he wished. None of my sibling were treated as badly as i was. I was an outcast, the black sheep. There is much more but i do not wish to ramble on. Many thanks.


I’ve always said I don’t want kids. Great work.